Sunday, October 21, 2012

Something I never wanted to write....My Eulogy to Brian...

To my friend, my brother...I miss you every day.  We will be opening up the throttles for you today, dude.


The task of describing Brian Miller is not a difficult one.  Especially not with an audience like this one made of people who knew him.  Even if you met him just once, you knew him.  There was no “fake” Brian, what you saw and heard was who he was…no b.s., occasionally obscene, more than sparingly irreverent, and damn proud of himself.  To say that he was larger than life sounds so clichéd, but it just so happens in his case to be very true.  He was, both literally and figuratively…naked to the world.

 

In this room, there are hundreds of stories about Brian.  Stories about crazy things he did, stories about his dreams, stories that paint a picture…a legacy…of just who this man was that we all loved.  Many of these tales seem to include the following line:  “He was a guy who would help out ANYONE.”  There probably aren’t many people here that can say Brian didn’t help them out at some point in some way…he was simply one of the most giving people any of us will ever meet.  Brian’s life seemed to be scheduled upon the needs of others…often, he just left out the little niceties of life like food and sleep because somebody he knew needed something.  In today’s world, a person like that is a rare find indeed, and a treasure that we must keep alive not only in our hearts, but in our actions.

 

Brian’s untimely departure leaves a huge gap in many of our lives.  An enormous persona like his will not be easily replaced or glossed over, nor should it.  Reflecting on Brian will of course bring much sadness.  He was so full of life as to be bursting, rarely was he without a smile and a boisterous laugh.  He was a great friend.  His journey was way too short.  And we are all worse off without him.  And it leaves us all with a great feeling of emptiness.

 

But its not all bad.

 

Now is the time for us all to reflect on how Brian touched our lives.  In no time, those tears will turn to smiles.  We have lost a great friend, son, and brother.  But how lucky were we to have known him.  How fortunate to have this person in our lives and now forever in our memories?  Brian’s legacy will always live, so long as we keep him in our hearts and in our minds.  Most importantly, Brian can live on in our actions.  The next time we lend someone a helping hand, and it does not matter WHO, be they friend or complete stranger, we can all think of Brian, because that is just what he would have done.  Live your lives like this, and Brian will always be with you in spirit.

 

Now Brian is ahead of us all in that great race to the horizon.  You may picture him as you knew him best, with monster horsepower in hand, under foot, or between his legs.  He is racing.  And he is at peace.

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